Speed Dating Tips
Sure you already experience the joys traditional dating can bring but have you ever tried the speed dating game? Speed dating may sound awkward for some especially to conservative people who believes traditional dating is still the best they can experience- safe, reliable and real. But with the escalating number of internet services offering speed dating games, more and more people are becoming interested to try and experience the thrill that comes with it.
Indeed, speed dating can be fun and enjoyable way to meet singles. However before joining the bandwagon wheel you have to have a little or quick glance on some of the most helpful tips to make fast dates easy and pressure-free.
Below are just some of the hints or tips you might consider before hitting a posh dinner date with a man or woman on your very first speed date.
Mirror on the Wall
Yes, it pays to check every inch of you in front of a big mirror before going out and meeting your date. Paying attention to your appearance (not limited to face and upper body but whole appearance) is very important. Sure you wouldn't want to look groggy or tacky in front of your date. Women specially need to wear something that is casual and classic, not sultry or too sexy. Black is safe as always but don't don the LBD just yet (little black dress) just stick to smart casual, something that will leave an impression that you are there to be respected, not to bring home for "midnight" dessert. Men on the other hand should also make an effort not to show up in their usual blue jeans, shorts or shirt. Wear a collared shirt or a polo shirt, nice khakis or black pants and a good leather shoes. It doesn't have to be a Lacoste or Ferragamo, just keep it clean and simple. And by the way, you don't have to wear all your jewelries, just the right attitude will sure to make you stand out from the hordes of other men and women.
Be Cool and SMILE
Indeed a smile can warm the heart especially if that smile is sincere. NO explanation needed. We love the positive vibe smile can give. It radiates life and it can be infectious, thus it's a good thing. In addition being cool and happy can help you make a person comfortable. If you're the type who gets easily tense, try to breath deep and smile in front of the mirror before showing to your date. In addition, never ever bite your nails, tap your fingers or feet or play your keys or phone once you're in front him or her. Unless you really want to annoy the person.
Walk straight, sit straight, never walk limply or slouch on the chair.
Slouching is no good; neither is crossing your arms across your chest. These will give the impression of being either (again!) bored or defensive. If you lean forward slightly, you'll convey interest. Keep you hands free and on the table. Gesturing some during conversation is fine and can help you make a dynamic point, but don't flail about.
Don't Drink Too Much Alcohol
You want to be on your best behavior and completely focused. Alcohol will dull your wits and your attention, which is fatal in speed dating, when you're trying to learn as much as you can quickly. There's also the chance you'll do or say something stupid - ouch! You don't want to ruin your chances in four minutes or less.
Keep the Conversation Flowing
Ask open-ended questions when starting conversations; it will keep the conversation flowing. Asking, "where do you work?" doesn't give the other person much to work with. Asking, "What's your favorite childhood memory?" or "Who would you most like to meet in the world?" will naturally lead to discussions of why and comparing notes for the two of you.
Focus on the Other Person
This is probably one of the most important speed dating tips. Focus the conversation on learning more about the person you're sitting across from than on advertising yourself. Everyone enjoys talking about things they're passionate about. Find out what the person's passion is, and ask questions that will draw them out.
Follow up Without Pressure
At the end of the evening or a few days later, you'll receive contact information for people you expressed an interest in who felt the same way. Send a short, friendly email to let them know you enjoyed meeting them and thanking them. Don't send a novel and don't pester them if they don't answer within a few hours or even the same day. The person may be genuinely interested, but very busy, so give them a few days to respond.
Don't make each speed date a test or challenge. Simply look at it as an opportunity to meet lots of interesting people and make some new friends. If you do these simple speed dating tips, you'll find yourself enjoying the evening for its own sake. If a few dates come out of it, they will be a wonderful bonus. Keeping these speed dating tips in mind will make your first speed dating experience more relaxing and help you put your best foot forward. Good luck and happy dating!