Talking to Women
You're hitting this certain bar for some time now and you've been eyeing for this certain girl with blonde hair, tan skinned and to-die for body. However second thoughts come rushing in every time you try to approach her. You're afraid that you might piss her off or you might run out of words to say once you're in front of her.
Now, that's basically the role of small talk, knowing the right words to utter on the onset of the conversation and avoiding some stupid jokes or banter that might send the girl running in no time, not towards you but in the opposite direction.
Below are just some of the good old tips that you might want to consider when breaking the ice between you and the girl you've been wanting to meet for some time. Make the goal in your conversation to connect not to impress or boosts your credentials such as, "Oh, I'm like this and I work for this big company as blah blah..." Your very goal is to find out who the other person is. This is not the time for you to give out unnecessary details about you.
The Power of Flattery
Those shoes suit you so well or you're hair is phenomenal are just one of the examples of comment women want to hear. However, don't over-do it. Just comment for a specific type of thing in her e.g. her jeans, her stiletto, her do, whatever that caught your fancy. And be sincere. Don't use adjectives such as, sexy, hot or sizzling unless you want a big slap on the face.
Of Great Food and Wine
This is also a great way to start the conversation running by asking her favorites. Do you like Chef Salad over Taco Salad? Bordeaux or Chateau Lafite 1787 kind of conversation might spark her interest to speak about herself and yes this is your chance to grab it without acting like a jerk. The key is to listen, have, comment a little and have a ready follow up question. Just in case.
Questions. More Intelligent Questions that is
Avoid asking silly questions such as. So can I get your number or can I go out with you later. Of course this will ruin the evening in no time. You can ask instead about things in relation to her childhood or her favorite routine after her 9-5 shift at work. Be sure to ask it's intelligently not the stupid kind of. Ah, so you work then go to the gym and what? Try to find a middle ground and try to be funny and at the same time witty. And of course avoid boring and nonsensical questions like do you like this music kind of stuff.
Listen and comment sincerely if it's needed
Yes. Listening is one of the key to win her attention and who knows even her interest on you. Make her feel comfortable by smiling but not laughing too much. Also do not stare long enough. Fleeting glance could help but staring him like for 3 minutes is totally annoying. Just keep your cool, comment if needed but don't talk too much after all the spotlight is centered not to you but to her. Be yourself and greater things will sure to follow.